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Post by Sarah on Feb 17, 2010 13:10:42 GMT -5
The apartment complex I live in also has some business' offices in it as well. The building has an atrium on the inside - which mind you, everything echoes in. Our apartment faces the atrium - for the last hour and a half, there has been a business luncheon/meeting/speakers which echo so loud and are so distracting to me. I can't get any homework done and day time is the main time for me to get work done. This is so frustrating - the least the realty office could have done was notify the tenants, especially those with atrium facing apartments. I mean, this building is PRIMARILY apartments not offices so I think this is utter crap. It is not where meetings and luncheons should be going on. In actuality, it's pretty chilly in there in the winter. Argh. I'm so annoyed right now.
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Post by Nancy on Feb 17, 2010 22:41:51 GMT -5
So about 5 years ago when I found out my husband got his girlfriend pregnant and I divorced him, I moved back in with my parents. I still live with them, primarily because I really don't think I could live by myself. I hate being here by myself when they go out of town, I don't sleep much because I'm paranoid someone is going to break in. (I'm a chicken. A big one.) Anyway, I live with 6 dogs, 5 are my parents and are labs, and my little Shih Tzu. This afternoon the 2 youngest labs were playing and jerked my laptop out of my lap. When it landed in the floor, it landed on the side the power cord plugs into. The plug was bent all to hell, but I got it straightend out and figured I would have to buy a new cord, which I realize isn't cheap. My mother and I have the exact same laptop, and hers was sitting right there, so I unplugged her power cord to use in my computer in the mean time. Well lucky me, it's not the cord, something INSIDE my computer is broken. My stepdad is pretty computer savvy and is in school for IT stuff, but he couldn't fix it. Their solution to the problem is to take it to Best Buy or somewhere and see how much it will cost to fix it before I buy another one. I've been all over Toshiba's website, and not only do they not have any registered repair places anywhere near Memphis, apparently this is a known problem that many people have complained about. Most who posted there said they were charged $400 only to be told it was unfixable. I have money in my savings account, so replacing it is not the issue. Their dogs broke it, but have they offered any monetary assistance? Of course not. They know the money I have saved is for a down payment for a new motorcycle this summer, which they are all for, but when it comes down to helping pay for something their dogs broke, no help at all. My mother has told me several times tonight not to use my down payment money until I see if mine can be fixed, but I can't go weeks without a computer. I have a desktop, but my grandmother has it because hers flipped out on her. She is basically house bound so I'm not going to ask for it back. So I guess there goes my dreams of a new Harley when my truck is paid off in July.
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Post by nmcox on Feb 18, 2010 11:20:14 GMT -5
I feel so blah. I guess it's the cold weather and lack of anything interesting going on in my life. Maybe it's the fact that I was told only a week ago that I'm lack 16 credit hours (more than an average semester) in order to graduate. So now I'm going to have to take 6 classes this summer, which means I'll have no summer break and thatt I'm going to have to cut my hours at work. I'm just really bummed out.
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Post by jamie on Feb 18, 2010 12:30:51 GMT -5
Well, here it is. I don't rant much but this is really bugging me. We are suppose to be heading to Florida next week for a Farm Show and a good friend of ours is suppose to be going with us and splitting the bill. He always splits the cost for fuel and hotel rooms and for rental of a golf cart at the show. As far as we knew he was going but he has been so wishy washy about it that my husband asked me to text him last night and make sure he was still going. So I did and I got back a reply of I hope to go!!! You hope to go? What??? I was in shock!! He knew that Mike and I already put a deposit down on a hotel and paid in full for a golf cart rental! Under normal circumstances we would just pack up and go without him but since we have had nothing but rain Mike has not been logging as much as normal and we can't foot the whole bill alone. So now what are we suppose to do just sit here and wait until next Thursday for him to back out and not be able to get a rental refund and deposit refund on the hotel??? It just really irks me to death and I told Mike if he backs out now after saying since Nov. that he is going I am going over there and punching him in his face LOL!! Not really but it is a novel idea right now!!
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Post by Kathleen C-C on Feb 23, 2010 0:16:01 GMT -5
My church has a list of baby-sitters of all kinds - for mothers that just need a second set of hands for a birthday party/outing to women who will stay with kids overnight while parents are busy (working, out of town, in the hospital having more kids, etc.). You can't just sign up and get in the book - you have to interview with a committee and pass reference and background checks, etc.
Brian and I are in Houston so he can take the Texas Bar Licensing Exam. Sally got a mid-year promotion from 4K to kindergarten so we had to leave her in Memphis since her attendance is more closely monitored than it was in pre-school. We started interviewing babysitters months in advance - like the day that he registered for the test. The woman we finally chose has stayed overnight for us before while one/both of us were working, but never while we were both out of town. She stayed with Brian and Sally while I was in Denver a few weeks ago, since Brian can't drive right now. I would have stayed with Sally in Memphis while he drove himself to the TBLE, but my husband "does all his own stunts" and sprained his right knee a few weeks ago. He can barely walk right now, let alone drive.
~11:15p.m. CST last night, I got a txt msg from her: Hey how do u make ur cat quit yowling? He's been walking around since we got home today. Its rly annoying, and I am bout 2 leave."
Say what? First of all, I TOLD you not to send me any texts - pick up the phone and dial, ESPECIALLY if you are threatening to abandon my 5 year old child! Second, you CANNOT just walk out on a little girl when both of her parents are hundreds of miles out of state just because the cat won't shut up! Sedate him! I left detailed instructions about how to do this in the handbook on the refrigerator.
This hag was supposed to be a very experienced sitter with many recommendations and certifications to her name. I checked all of her references and did a criminal background check before I hired her. She is being generously compensated to stay in our apartment with Sally instead of at her house in Arkansas. I am paying for gas, groceries and entertainment. All she really has to do is get Sally to/from school and activities on time and not wreck the car or set anything on fire. She's stayed with us overnight before and said that the cat is annoying, but manageable.
When I called my dad in a panic he agreed to go get Sally, but he gets up at ~4a.m to work out and he wasn't happy about leaving in the middle of the night to take care of "your responsibilities". I am so thankful I talked him out of bed, because the sitter was GONE when he got there! I can't even imagine what might have happened if Sally had woken up in the middle of the night to find both of her parents and the babysitter gone...What if Sally had been hurt while she was alone and unsupervised? What if the police had been called? What if this woman's reckless, selfish behavior had resulted in Brian and me losing custody of our child, temporarily or permanently?!...it makes me ill just to imagine it!
Brian has worked so hard to put himself through college and law school. Sally's former mother abandoned her family when Sally was just 9 months old and he and Sally have mostly been on their own ever since. Through all of this, Brian has managed to maintain a near-perfect GPA in college and law school and because of this was offered a job at a prestigious Houston law firm. (This is why we are taking the bar in Texas instead of at home in Tennessee.) He has already completed the new hire process, and now "all" he has to do is graduate from law school and pass the Texas bar. We had to hire a car service to take him back and forth, because if he misses any part of the 3 day exam it will count as failing the test and he will lose any chance of getting his dream job. We have found a house in Houston that we would like to buy, and I am looking for prenatal care providers and schools in the area. Our lives are pending the results of these tests! There's too much riding on this too let him quit now, so I left Houston at 12:15a.m. and right now I am taking a break in Texarkana. I should be back in Memphis by 11a.m., including time for breaks. From this point forward I will just take all of Sally's childcare needs into my own hands and never trust anyone else to help me ever again!
My dad agreed to drop her at school this morning, but he will not leave work early to pick her up or keep her overnight. This is really unbelievable to me, because he's taken the TBLE and knows exactly the kind of pressure that Brian is facing right now, knows that he is broken and cannot drive, knows what will happen if he can't get to the tests Tuesday-Thursday. He even sent a text message to that effect while we were driving yesterday: "Proud of you son. Glad that one of my kids will be a lawyer soon!"
You would think that if he's so "proud" of Brian, then he wouldn't mind helping out for a few days...but no.
I can't believe this happened! I thought I was taking care of things by hiring a professional babysitter, and I had no idea that she would flake out on us over a noisy cat, especially when we are 8.5+ hours out of town! Brian will have to make do with the car service until Thursday, and Sally and I will be back in Houston on Saturday morning to pick him up. We are all so thankful that Sally is safe, but this is unbelievable!
Surely drama and nonsense shall follow me all the days of my life, and I shall live in the house of crazy forever...
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Post by faeriequeene on Feb 23, 2010 2:47:25 GMT -5
^^^ That really sucks Kathleen. I'm sorry you weren't able to find reliable childcare for Sally - at least she's safe with your dad, though.
Ok, so I'm going to sound totally selfish and bitchy here, but I have to get this out. Nick's Basic graduation and family are in mid-April and I'm thrilled to be able to afford to go up and see him for those days. The only problem is he wants his whole family and whatever friends that want to make the nine hour trip to come up as well. And his family, especially his mother, is pushing to go. His family is not in a place financially to be able to afford the cost of the trip - and Nick and I sure can't fork out the extra money to pay their way. I'm going to have to drive up through the afternoon (I can't leave until 2:30 at the earliest) and into the night on the day before so that I won't miss classes that day and so that I can actually be there first thing for their training exercises the next morning. Well, if his mother and the rest of his family (his brother and father) insist on going they will insist on riding with me (because there's no point to take two vehicles in their opinion) and I'm going to turn into super bitch on the way up there because they push my buttons (especially his father) and neither of his parents handle car trips well which means they will be smoking at every stop we make (which I don't stop a lot on long trips.....they do). I also will be driving Nick's car because his gets way better gas mileage and is more reliable than my car. He's anal retentive about this car and won't let anyone besides me eat in it and won't let them smoke in it. I won't let them in the car if they smoke when we stop because just riding through town with them in the car makes it smell smoky for a few days - I won't put up with it for that whole trip so they will bitch at me for making them more stressed.....it's their own fault for smoking in the first place - I shouldn't have to accommodate their choices just because they insisted upon not driving up themselves. Then there's the situation of the hotel. My MIL will want us all to share a hotel room - she and I would share a bed and then JT and FIL would share the other. Can you say NOT HAPPENING! She snores loudly and I can't sleep with a snorer. Plus they will want a smoking room - to which I will not comply....if I'm paying for where I'm sleeping I'm not going to deal with cigarette smoke. And then once we actually get to see Nick and go into town with him my FIL (who I can't stand at the moment because of everything he has done that is resulting in my in-laws separation) will want to go and do everything just because it's an excuse for him to spend money he doesn't have to spend.....like going to the movies and a buffet and to play putt-putt or something....and then will pitch a fit if any of us disagree with him.
I can't handle it right now. It's my final semester of college and I'm bogged down with all of that. I have a ton of stuff to try and get settled - ranging from filing taxes to finding a place to live after I graduate and before Nick gets back. I don't need the additional stress of dealing with my in-laws in what will become an explosive situation (as previously stated they will push me to the point of being a super bitch).
I'm sorry, but Nick's my husband and I want him to myself for the little bit that I'm able to see him - he left for basic three and a half weeks after we got married for crying out loud! He's not going to be able to stay off-base either night that I'm up there - so our time is going to be limited due to the scheduled activities he is required to participate in and by the "base curfew" enforced on those in training.
Am I wrong to want to have the little bit of time I will get with Nick to be solely for him and me? My in-laws think I'm nuts for wanting to go by myself and exclude them from the trip. I haven't heard back from Nick as to his opinion on how I feel about the situation, and I'm honestly hoping that he will side with me on this, because it will be difficult to deal with everything else if he pushes the issue of their coming along. Gah! I'm so stressed right now with everything that is going on with everyday life - I feel like I'm gonna crack under the weight of it all!
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Post by Allie on Feb 23, 2010 9:40:20 GMT -5
^^^^^^^
OMG you sound like you are in the same boat as me..Matt is getting ready to finally be coming home to the states after 6 months over seas in Kuwait..well Matt has it planned that I and Wyatt pick him up from the airport and go straight home not seeing any family and just take the time for him to play with our son..he has not seen our son in over 6 months and well a lot has changed with him..Well the issue at hand for me is Matt's mother who I never really have gotten along with because she to this day is mad matt married a Yankee and hates the fact I am jewish..LONG STORY THERE..well she goes and rips me a ear full telling me that Matt is her son and she has all the right to either be at the aiport when Matt arrives or that we come straight to her house onces he lands..I told her I am sorry but this is mine and Wyatts special day and I think Matt should spend it with us..And the best part is Matt backs me up 100% and thinks I am right but Matts mother is saying I am brain washing him and he is only saying that to make me happy..omg this women is nuts. It gets better because 5 days after Matt gets back into the states he has planned for a trip to Disney World as a thank you to me for all the hard work I have done the past six months..well he told me to invite my family along because they are the only ones that have really helped me in the 6 months..Matts parents dont help and only ever want to see me to play with Wyatt but say if i need to run to the store or something they turn around and say they are not a baby sitting center..kinda odd..well we have this trip planned and everything and come to find out a few weeks ago Matts mom goes SURPRISE we are coming to Disney World too and its the same week we are going..I was like WTF are you doing trying to crash someone's vacation..I could she here saying lets plan a trip with them and Matt and I but to crash on my already planned trip and think I am going to go to where she wants and shit makes me so mad..this women is really trying to break me down and push Matt and I apart...She still tells me that when Matt gets home she wants her personal time with him and asks me to stay away..i dont know what to do anymore?!?!
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Post by !Ashley! on Feb 23, 2010 11:24:04 GMT -5
@ Kathleen-I can't believe she just up and left! that's insane!! No one in their right mind would just leave a 5 year old kid by themselves in the middle of the night!
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Post by !Ashley! on Feb 23, 2010 13:18:22 GMT -5
I'm just feeling super stressed. For some reason, all of my teachers decided to make a paper due sometime between Friday and Tuesday. that's 5 papers! AND I have 2 midterms next week. I wanted to start finding/applying for jobs soon but it seems like there's just not time. I also need to find time to go to the SS office and apply for a new card because mine is suddenly MIA. there's just so much going on right now. and of course, this weekend is the one where I work more than usual because it's time for inventory. GAG ME! luckily, Spring Break is a week from Friday...but of course I don't get to get anywhere because 1. too many girls already asked off the entire week from work and 2. I don't really have the money nor do I have my parents paying for me like some people.
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Post by Nancy on Feb 23, 2010 21:05:16 GMT -5
@kathleen, I can't believe this crazy woman left a 5 year old by herself!!! I hope you tell the comittee people about that! She is insane! melissa and Allie, please tell your husbands Thank You for being brave enough to protect me! I'm so sorry y'all are having to put up with crazy in-laws. My ex-husbands grandmother tried very hard to come between us, and in a round about way, I think she contributed to his cheating, as I never did anything good enough (laundry, cooking, etc). Allie I'm glad Matt is coming home very soon!
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Post by Katy Ann on Feb 24, 2010 7:36:34 GMT -5
AW ladies keep your heads up
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Post by sunshine37135 on Feb 26, 2010 13:57:08 GMT -5
OK, This isn't really a Rant, but I need to vent from kid stresses...
The 48 hrs have been hell. The twins haven't been sleeping good as it is, so I have felt a little sleep deprived. Wednesday night, Hallie started crying in the middle of the night. I figured she had wet the bed. Instead, She had thrown up all over herself and her bed. I get her and the bed cleaned up. She didn't feel like she had a fever. I figure it is just all the sinus drainage upsetting her stomach. I no more than get back in bed and she does it again. By the time it is over, she throws up 4 times in an hour & a half.
I eventually get back to sleep when Isaac starts crying. Hungary again. I talk Adam into getting up since I had been up for two hours already. I fall back to sleep. Come to find out, Isaac took his 8 oz bottle, then threw every last drop of it back up on Adam, the couch, and the floor. I am so glad it wasn't me at this point. I'd have lost it. Again, the first thing that comes to mind is that his nose is running so much that it was causing the problem. Adam cleans the baby up, then himself and Aaliyah starts crying for her bottle. He feeds her, but she only takes about half. She hasn't been eating well lately. There is another thing going on in the middle of all this, but out of respect for the person involved, I will leave it out. I will say it involved cleaning up another big mess.
SO, feeling that all this was related to their allergies and everyone doing fine by morning, I take them to school. I am in the middle of the grocery store when I get a call from the director saying that Isaac had thrown up again. I rush to finish my shopping so I can take the food home and go pick them up. UNFORTUNATELY...I am a coupon shopper. I routinely have 30 or so coupons for a single grocery trip. I also HATE dealing with the incompetent people that work at Walmart and use the self check out lane to help ease some of my frustration with them. The only problem with this is that I can only use 10 coupons before a regular cashier has to suspend the transaction and finish running the coupons at the register. Now...I live in Memphis. I am not racist, so don't misunderstand me. The 'democrats' as we affectionately refer to them tend to have a chip on their shoulder. Of all times, I get one of them. The first words out of her mouth were, "How many coupons you got anyway?" Here I am standing with my 3" binder full of coupons. I was using about 25. I politely told her that I had reached my coupon limit and they have to suspend my transaction and finish it at the register. She counts the number used on the screen. Yep, 10! She calls a manager over to open the coupon box to remove all my coupons I had already used. "I want to see what all you bought." What the heck difference does it make to you what I bought and what I am using coupons for? We go up to the register and she starts scrutenizing my coupons and checking my receipt for the items. She questioned every darn one that I had! If she couldn't find it on the receipt, I had to dig through my bags so she could see it. Mind you, I am trying to finish up so I can get to my sick kid.
Anyway, having to pick the kids up early, I didn't get to make my weekly trip to the VB store. I was dying to see PBG. Instead, I go home to take care of the babes. Isaac didn't spit up the rest of the day. Leah, however, cried the entire afternoon. There isn't anything more annoying to me than to listen to whining and crying. It grates on my nerves. I know, I am a Mom and need to suck it up. Kids Cry! Nevertheless, it wears me out. The perfect ending to all this is that Adam isn't coming home after work. He had a dinner to go to so I was on my own until 9pm.
Generally speaking, everyone slept alright last night. I figured out Leah was crying because she cut a tooth. She has been better today. I really wanted to see the new VB so I decided I would take everyone to eat lunch, let Hallie play, then go shopping. It was time for the kids to have their bottles. I am feeding them both at the same time while Hallie is playing when Isaac stops eating. NP. He has had enough to keep him happy. He had also had enough to completely soak his clothes, carrier, and entire stroller. Again, every ounce of milk came back up. I hadn't replinished the spare clothes from where he did it the day before at school, so I am back home again with out going to the VB store. I think I might need medication for the withdrawls.
The icing for me is Hallie. The three year old diva is refusing to listen to a word I say. I can talk, spank, time out, remove privileges, you name it and she just doesn't listen. I am at my wits end as to what to do with her. *sigh*
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Post by Katy Ann on Feb 26, 2010 15:28:50 GMT -5
Aww Katrina I am sorry about the puking kids... Hannah went through it and I must mention I HATE vomit also. I hope it gets better soon.
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Post by Nancy on Feb 27, 2010 23:29:15 GMT -5
Oh Katrina! I always say God didn't make me a mother because I can't handle vomit. At all. I hope everyone is better very soon!
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Post by Sarah on Feb 28, 2010 22:17:24 GMT -5
I am so over this grad school thing. First semester of it was hard, yet doable. This semester I feel so utterly overwhelmed and can't seem to get ahead no matter how hard I try. I only have 3 classes (which is considered a full-load) but within these 3 classes, I have: a group project, a 20-25 page paper, and a 12 page paper due at the end of the semester on top of the nearly 150 pages of reading weekly for one class, 60 pages of reading + a quiz for another, and 30 pages for the other. On top of that, I still work part-time at my VB retailer, need to start my master's research paper, and have this "integrity training" that I need to do online before the end of this semester in order to start my research paper. I don't know how to get it all done and feel defeated.
Sometimes I feel like this is the wrong program for me. I'm not enjoying it a lot of the time. I don't know if it's because the professors are not good or if I just am not that interested in the subject matter. I'm studying Human Resources and Employment Relations. Maybe some of these feelings stem from the fact that I have applied for sooo many internships and haven't heard back from a single one. Maybe it's because when I came into the program, I was 1 of 5 first year grad students and they couldn't offer a single assistantship to us and now, because we'll only have one year left, they won't offer them to us - they only give them on a 2-year basis.
For my department, they assigned us a mentor who graduated from the department and I also got a mentor through a student group that I'm in - both individuals are in HR related fields. They are both the least help I've ever had. The first, took a month to ever respond to my first email and it's been a month, and she hasn't responded to my second email. The other, has been so flaky and hasn't responded back to my email from the beginning of January - she sent a quick email that said she would get back to me in mid-February because they were in the middle of training. It's the end of February and I won't email her again. I'm sorry, but if you sign up to be a mentor, you need to understand that there is a time commitment there and at least put some effort forth. It's been the biggest waste of my time. Funny thing is, the mentor programs are what my department and the group pride themselves on. So glad I got screwed over there.
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